INTENTIONAL MOTHERING

I have to admit, I’m a little bummed I can’t find a picture of my mom to share on social media. There aren’t very many, because she went to be with Jesus way too soon for me. She was an incredible mother! She filled our lives with love and always attended to the little details that meant the most to us by making our favorite meals, giving us individual time and attention, and by being someone we could be proud of.

Like nobody else,  my mom illuminated every room she walked into and always left people with a smile on their face. She didn’t have long to make her mark on the world, but she made the most of what time she had. I’ll never forget the efforts she  made in order to be with us as much as she could while she still had the opportunity . One specific example that is indelibly imprinted in my mind was the time she had my dad place a mattress in the back of our station wagon when she could no longer sit up and drive her to the ball field for one of our football games. All she wanted was to get a glimpse of me cheering and my brothers playing football and to let us know that she would be there for us as long as she possibly could. When she couldn’t be in the stands, she was still there through her own creative measures. proverbs3125

Somethings only heaven will make sense of, but I’m thankful that in those short 10 years, my mom taught me so much about faith, love, life and living intentionally. In her limited days, she deposited an infinite amount of love into this world. Her legacy lives on! Every time I go back to our home, someone will share another memory to remind me of just how amazing my sweet momma was. People still cry and miss her after 39 years have passed. Mothering and people were her life!

The way my mom loved her family and people in general made a huge impact on our community. At her funeral, after the church was filled to capacity, people surrounded the church in circles, honoring her in the pouring down rain. They had to be there for her like she was for so many of them. That, my friends,  is a life well lived in my estimation.  My life is forever enriched by the way she loved me and the way she taught me by example to love people. She is worthy of great honor.

In so many ways, she was a Proverbs 31 lady! “She was clothed with strength and dignity and she laughed without fear of the future.” Proverbs 31:25. Even in her battle for her own life, she gave strength and dignity to others. She never wanted anyone’s pity, when someone started focusing on her negative situation, she would show them her new jewelry while making a joke about all the good things cancer can bring to you. She chose to focus on the positive in a less than positive situation!

For all the women that are doing their best to be a great mom regardless of their circumstances, I honor you! For all the moms that are fighting a terminal illness and don’t know how much time they have, make the most of the time you have and know that it will be enough.  Your love is  a lasting resource your kids will carry forever! To every mom, everywhere, please know that the time and investments that you make into your kids lives are the memories they will live in long after you are gone. Be intentional about your mothering! Make memories on purpose, take tons of pictures and never let your children leave your presence without knowing they are loved beyond measure! Love God and love your family! Intentionally build a bond between yourself and your kids that keeps them forever grounded in unconditional love.  Kids don’t  need perfection, they don’t need many things, but they must have the love of the one that birthed them to be fully functional adults that contribute love to their world.

No one is assured of tomorrow, but we do have today! Make sure you make time to intentionally be the best mom you can be! Happy Mother’s Day, my friends!

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