Making memories is really important to me. My mom passed away when I was very young, so I learned early to make the most of the time you have with the people you love because tomorrows don’t always get here.
Making memories doesn’t have to cost a lot or take a lot of time. It is just doing something special to make someone feel loved. One of my favorites quotes comes from Maya Angelou, “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” I find that to be so very true!
A lot of my memories with my mother and my precious grandmother involve food. They were both phenomenal cooks and food was a big part of our time together. I’ll never forget when I was on a fried cornbread and hot sauce kick as a teenager. My grandmother would wake up and fry me little cakes of cornbread and put the hot sauce bottle on the table. It was such a small, inexpensive act, but it spoke volumes to me! She got up, made something she would not normally make, and she did it just for me! This small act of love told me that I was worth the extra trouble to her! I still remember it 36 years later.
My sweet mom, every year she was alive and able she would make Tuna Casserole and Cherry Cheesecake for my birthday. I had three other siblings, so the fact that on my birthday the menu was just about me, made me feel like a princess. My Cherry Cheesecake always had candles on it and it came accompanied with the Birthday Song! She never forgot the details of my favorite meal. Although she cooked nightly and this was one of the easier meals she prepared, this night she focused the meal on making me happy. I’m still talking about it 40 years later.
The reason I remember these small, but meaningful events is because of the love that was behind these precious events. Many people spend so much time and money trying to make their kids or someone else they love happy. Can I tell you the truth? I seldom hear anyone talking about the big dollar items that people went in debt for at the funerals we perform. It is always the kind, personal, intentional acts of love and kindness that touched their hearts and made them feel like they were loved.
So go out of your way, but don’t blow your budget and don’t stress yourself out. Do something simple like I decided to do this morning. Get a box of generic Buttermilk Pancake Mix, some water and a package of milk chocolate chips. Mix 1 cup of pancake mix with 2/3 cup of water. Mix in the chocolate chips and drop by spoonfuls onto a a skillet sprayed with cooking spray on medium heat. Flip when the pancakes begin to brown. When they are done serve them to kids on a special plate. You could add some meat or fruit to make it look pretty. Such a simple, out of the ordinary act, but it is packed full of love. I guarantee you it will make them smile and create a memory.
Always remember the sweet memories we make will be what fills their hearts with love long after we are gone!