Dear Aunt B:
My husband and I have been married for almost two years and this entire time we have been planning on moving to Texas where I’m from. It is now two weeks from when we are supposed to move and he suddenly doesn’t want to go. He says that he is scared and isn’t ready for such a big change at this moment in his life. However, the whole reason we’re moving is so that I can go back to school. I’m confused about where to go from here. Any advice?
Change comes easier to some than it does to others. Perhaps your husband is fearful of a drastic change or worried about facing the unknown. Whatever his reasoning, I would encourage you to talk about the move in depth. Try making a list together of all the pros and cons of relocating and staying put. I would encourage you to pray about this matter together. I like to acknowledge God in every situation, but especially life-changing ones. Proverbs 3:5-6 is one of my favorite references when I need direction. I hope it encourages you.
Proverbs 3:5-6 New King James Version
5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
And lean not on your own understanding;
6 In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He shall direct your paths.
Finally, timing is everything and I would not advise moving unless you are both in agreement. Postponing a move is better than making a mistake. There are so many on-line courses you can take, so continue pursuing your education, if at all possible. The big decisions in marriage need both parties’ stamp of approval. Be patient and do your best to communicate with your husband your desires. Be open to his feelings, as well. If you are suppose to move, I believe both of you will know that moving is a good thing.
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