For years my husband and I have been counseling couples. In the most heated sessions, when you get to the heart of the matter, it is almost always a lapse in the little things that caused the marriage to fall apart. I’m going to share with you some Passionate Tips From Red Lips that can help keep or possibly even bring back the flame in your relationship.
PASSIONATE TIP #1: TAKE A SIGH & START WITH THE EYES. Remember when all you wanted to do was look into the eyes of the person you married? When it comes right down to it, your whole relationship started with “THE ONCE OVER LOOK”. Before you said a word, there was a connection, an attraction that began with your eyes. You noticed every last detail of that mysterious person. You memorized their habits, smile, the sparkle in their eyes, the cute little freckle on the right cheek. Taking notice of their quirks was something you loved discovering. Nothing about them annoyed you because YOU WERE SMITTEN!!!
When is the last time you took a good look at the person you share your life with? I mean a piercing, loving, flirty, locking of the eyes look. The look that says, “Did you hurt yourself, when you fell from Heaven?” Well, hopefully you aren’t that sappy, but you get the idea.
Take a moment and remember that feeling when you first noticed your husband or wife. That moment when the angels sang the “Hallelujah Chorus” and you knew your souls were merged together forever. Now, take a good look at that same beautiful person, the one with all the great attributes. They are still right beside you. They may not look exactly the same, but that hot, sexy person that disrupted your sensibility is still there waiting to be rediscovered. I mean look at them. Let them find you staring at them. Verbalize what you like about their hair, eyes, outfit, beautiful spirit, or whatever it is that stinking made you not be able to walk away from them in the first place. Listen, if it’s been awhile since you took a look at them and remarked, don’t be discouraged if they find it weird. But insist on spending at least a few minutes looking at your partner, preferably eye to eye.
One of the main things that causes people to become distracted from their spouse is feeling “unnoticed” or “invisible”. Your spouse needs to know that you still have eyes for them alone and that you are anxious to rediscover some of those long romantic stares into their eyes. Let me warn you when you begin to notice your partner again and rekindle the fire in your eyes, renewed love is awaiting you around the corner. So get ready and TAKE A SIGH & START WITH THE EYES!